Sources of Anger

Physical Pain. When you hurt yourself physically and the pain continues the next day you find yourself irritable. When you experience unexpected pain you automatically react with anger. Pain will cause immediate anger.

Muscle Tension. if you have ever sprained your muscle you know what the sensation is like. The usual areas of sprain are: the back, neck, shoulders, arms, legs, feet. Anger can sometimes relieve the painful situation.

Overwork. Fatigue creates stress. There is a substance in your body called lactic acid which builds up in muscle tissue until your feel discomfort which forces you into an arousal reaction called anger.

When Your Needs Are Blocked. We all have needs that must be meet for us to feel comfortable. If we do not eat properly, we feel hungry. If we do not get enough sleep, we get irritable. If we have not experienced the sensation of being loved, we feel not wanted. As these needs are blocked the sensation becomes stronger and stronger until we become angry.

Things Are Not As They Should Be. When your picture of how your world should be gets out of sort we begin to feel stress. You might start out by demanding respect. You are told at work that your performance is substandard after putting a lot of effort into a project. You begin to look at your world and you find things are out of sort and you will no longer tolerate this. You explode in anger.

You Feel Attacked. This is an immediate reaction to a perceived enemy. You will use aggressive anger to push away any threat you feel toward yourself.

Feeling Abandoned. This is a threat to your emotional survival.When you feel your loved one has abandoned you, you will respond with anger.Here anger helps you to block awareness of the fear of loss and abandonment while mobilizing you to want to get out of this relationship. You want the other person to experience some of the pain that you are experiencing.